Sex and relationships are all tied together like those Christmas tree lights you can never untangle come New Years. For most people, you can’t have one without the other. Which means that sex is a very important part of a healthy and successful relationship. Unfortunately, though, most people know less about sex than they think they do. Myths abound, and some of them get in the way of successful –which means good– sex. Below, you’ll find some of the most widely believed sex myths… and what the truth really is.
Great lovers can please anybody. While it’s true that somebody who has had a lot of practice at sex and has worked to develop sexual skills will be more likely to please than somebody who’s never tried it before, a good lover is not the same for everybody. Because if you’re absolutely in love with that guy or girl who’s not very experienced (or absolutely turned on by them!), they can be a lot better than the guy or girl who knows how to use their tongue “just so.” Arousal is a complex thing… and it’s almost as much about mental perception as it is about physical ability.
A woman’s orgasm helps with conception. If you’ve ever tried for a baby (or, heck, tried to avoid one), you may have heard that a female orgasm assists with conception. This isn’t actually true. The contractions that take place in a woman’s body during orgasm are just not strong enough to move the sperm towards the egg. They have to swim up there all on their own.
The best sex is spontaneous. Most people imagine that good sex happens when, well, inspiration strikes. That those couples who plan sex for a Friday or Saturday night have big problems with their relationship. Not so. While spontaneous sex is always going to be a lot of fun, the truth is that sex is sex. And having a plan doesn’t do anything to lessen the experience. In fact, sometimes knowing that you’re going to have it makes it even better. Planning Saturday night sex isn’t boring… it’s only boring if you allow yourselves to fall into a rut.
Most women aren’t into the dirty stuff. Actually, most women are into the dirty stuff… at least to a point. Women simply don’t advertise it the way that men do (you’re not going to find many women detailing their love for anal play porn on their internet dating profiles!). Most women enjoy porn almost as much as men; they simply don’t enjoy the same kind. And as for dirty sex… while most women are less straightforward about it (and do like a romantic sex session sometimes) many like it just as much as men do.
Penetration brings women to orgasm. If you’ve read some of the other sex articles we have posted here at Datepad, you’ll find several mentions of this particular myth– so I won’t go into it too much. Suffice it to say that a full 70% of women cannot orgasm though simple penetration– no matter the technique. Without clitoral stimulation, most women just can’t get there. It’s that simple.
Guys are always up for it. While very young men who have just discovered sex are, with very few exceptions, always up for it, most men are not. Unless he has a particularly high sex drive, an adult man has many things in his life that are just as important to him as sex. Because so much energy is needed for day to day life and other responsibilities, a man’s sex drive generally slows down as he gets older. And while male sex drive problems aren’t as well-advertised as female ones, they’re almost as common.
Only some women have a G-spot. Actually, all women have a G-spot. It’s the bundle of nerves on the inside of the vaginal wall, about two inches into the vagina. But, like every other part on the body, the G-spot works differently from woman to woman. While some women may find a G-spot orgasm to be sexual perfection, others prefer a clitoral one. Some G-spots are simply harder to stimulate than others, causing the misperception that they’re just not there.
